“My father used to play with my brother and me in the yard. Mother would come out and say, ‘You’re tearing up the grass.’ ‘We’re not raising grass,’ Dad would reply. ‘We’re raising boys.’” – baseball Hall of Famer Harmon Killebrew
Women and men tend to see the world differently. One thing that has been hard for me to remember as a boymom is that my boys are not girls. Ha! It sounds obvious, but yet — I think we hold our boys to girl standards all the time.
We are women — WE naturally connect with others by talking, but boys connect by DOING.
We judge our kids’ obedience by how well they sit still — even though that’s something that comes a lot easier for girls than boys.
When boys get in trouble (often just for trying to use up all that pent up energy), we tell them to go think about what they’ve done or “settle down!”...which are probably the LAST things those rowdy boys need to do.
Obviously our female perspective is a GOOD thing — I think this world needs a lot more of it. Don’t hold back on parenting your boy in your own way. But...don’t forget that he is built differently than you, and it doesn’t make it wrong if you have to change things up so you can connect with him better. 💙