“My father used to play with my brother and me in the yard. Mother would come out and say, ‘You’re tearing up the grass.’ ‘We’re not raising grass,’ Dad would reply. ‘We’re raising boys.’” – baseball Hall of Famer Harmon Killebrew
Women and men tend to see the world differently. One thing that has been hard for me to remember as a boymom is that my boys are not girls. Ha! It sounds obvious, but yet — I think we hold our boys to girl standards all the time.
We are women — WE naturally connect with others by talking, but boys connect by DOING.
We judge our kids’ obedience by how well they sit still — even though that’s something that comes a lot easier for girls than boys.
When boys get in trouble (often just for trying to use up all that pent up energy), we tell them to go think about what they’ve done or “settle down!”...which are probably the LAST things those rowdy boys need to do.
Obviously our female perspective is a GOOD thing — I think this world needs a lot more of it. Don’t hold back on parenting your boy in your own way. But...don’t forget that he is built differently than you, and it doesn’t make it wrong if you have to change things up so you can connect with him better. 💙
Find me on Instagram at Boymoms Unite for more ideas on raising boys!
One of my favorite topics to discuss on my Instagram account with fellow moms: How do you talk about tech stuff with your kids?!
A few weeks ago I went to a parent class taught by an FBI agent who specializes in online crimes against children. She gave out a lot of scary stats and stories about what can happen to kids online. Most of the parents left looking overwhelmed & discouraged.
Dealing with the internet, social media, video games — it can be scary and daunting, for sure. This world is stuck in information overdrive, which is a huge blessing...and also sometimes a huge curse.
But it is OUR responsibility as parents to research, read up, teach our kids, and continue the conversation so our families don't fall victim to the issues that are sadly so common. Skyrocketing levels of teen anxiety and depression, youth suicides, cyberbullying, wasting time, and eroding family values — these things do NOT have to be your reality.
If you're wondering how to begin the conversation at home (or if you want to evaluate how your family is doing), start with this list of questions:
Why do we care about screen time?
What devices are allowed in our home?
Do we have time limits for technology?
What do we do if we encounter problems or inappropriate content?
What games and apps are allowed?
Who gets administrator / password rights?
What happens if we break our family's screen time rules?
Do your kids know the answers to these questions? Do YOU?
Tonight: hand everyone in your house a treat, say you're having a "family meeting," and discuss one of these topics. Get everyone’s input and really listen.
You can do it! You’re not alone — all of us moms are navigating this together. And our families are depending on us.
Find lots more ideas for talking about kids and tech: #boymom_screentime
(This post was originally shared on my Instagram account, Boymoms Unite! Follow me there for lots more conversation about kids and technology — plus tons of great discussion with fellow moms like YOU.)
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I’m living in a snow globe! Seattle is experiencing its 2nd week of snow, with more to come — we usually only get a day or two of the white stuff each year, so this is a big deal. Grocery stores are cleaned out, roads & parks are closed, school is cancelled. My boys LOVE playing in it, so that’s good, but we’re also spending a lot of time indoors.
After a whole week of this, we’re starting to run out of boy-friendly indoor activities (i.e. they’re bouncing off the walls). I like to share on my Instagram feed about our favorite “inside” things to do — you can find them all at the #indoorboymom hashtag — but I thought it would be helpful to put them all in one place. Hopefully this big list of the best indoor activities will help you (and me! :) find something to keep these rowdy boys occupied!
Disclaimer: Don’t be afraid to let your kids be BORED. That’s when they’ll come up with their best, most creative ideas! (I’ve read it can take up to 15 minutes for kids to get going — that’s a LOT of whining, but don’t give in!) But I totally get it — sometimes you need a structured activity, and sometimes they just need a spark of an idea to help them be creative. So, here you go — 57 indoor activities that require zero prep:
Fun Indoor Activities for Kids
Make construction paper targets and shoot Nerf guns at them (this gun is a favorite here)
Play a board game
Make “potions” by mixing water, vinegar, baking soda & food coloring (or whatever else you have on hand)
Make a laser maze using tape & string
Do a puzzle
Take slow-mo videos of your kids doing weird tricks (or jumping off stuff)
Make hot chocolate
Paint a picture
Paint snow! (paint watercolors in a tub of fresh snow)
Watch old home movies together
Look through baby books or photo albums
Do an Art for Kids Hub drawing video
Raid the bookshelf and read a book you haven’t seen in a while
Build a fort
Put cushions on the ground and wrestle / jump onto them
Grab a bunch of pillows, blankets & snacks and have a “reading party”
Build something out of the stuff in your recycle bin
Play Legos! (All our favorite ideas here: #boymomlegostuff)
Listen to an audiobook WHILE you play Legos
Get out your old play-doh
Play hide & seek
Make a book (staple together folded paper, add a construction paper cover)
Play freeze dance
Make a relay race doing different activities (my boys love doing the wheelbarrow with each other)
Time them running your stairs
Play Simon Says
Have a wrestling match with Mom as coach
See who can build the tallest tower (blocks, Legos, magna tiles, jenga blocks)
Film a video of your kids “teaching” how to do something
Do a secret good deed for someone in your family
Do a secret good deed for a neighbor
Get one of the million balls in your house and play catch
Draw self portraits
Put bathing suits on & “swim” in the master bath tub (put towels on the floor, this could get messy!)
Make new crayons out of old ones (bake in a muffin tin or a fun mold)
Bounce a balloon or soft ball on your hands to keep it from touching the floor
Make a movie using Lego minifigures as characters
Make paper airplanes & have a race to see who’s goes the farthest (there are tons of cool youtube videos that show you different ways to fold)
FaceTime the grandparents
Make your own comic
Make your own board game
Make puppets & do a puppet show
Get out the toys you don’t use that often: train tracks, marble run, magna tiles, perler beads
Make a scooter course in the garage
Make a floor race track using masking tape or washi tape
Clean your room
Learn a magic trick (again, youtube is your friend on this one)
Do a Lego challenge!
Don’t forget to follow me on Instagram at @boymoms_unite for lots more boy-friendly fun!
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